I’m not getting engaged in the traditional sense, but it is just as romantic: I’ve noticed a theme among the tenets of happiness...and that is engagement. Could it be that engagement is actually the Rosetta Stone for happiness?
When we are mindful we have a deep engagement in the present moment.
When we are emotionally intelligent we have the capacity to be connected to one’s own emotions and aware of others’.
When we have a growth mindset we have a deep engagement in and passion for learning.
When we savor we focus completely on the appreciation of something pleasant.
When we are in flow we are experiencing a mental state in which we are fully immersed in an activity.
When we have family meals we are creating a sense of connection among our family members, increasing their sense of belonging, resilience, and happiness.
When we foster relationships we strengthen our connections to others.
When we use attachment as the primary tool for discipline, we are strengthening our connections to our kids.
When we tell a family narrative we create a sense of connection to being part of something bigger than ourselves.
When we honor traditions we help our kids to connect with the past.
So this Valentines day, when I'm running last minute errands, I plan to look the checker in the eye and smile, to ask my husband “how are you” and to listen with 100% attention, to share some family lore with the kids during our family meal, and to savor the thousands of tiny bubbles on my tongue as I sip champagne and celebrate my new engagement.